Facing the infidelity or being cheated on by your partner is among the worst nightmares that thrash any marriage. It not only shakes down the relationship but also shatters a person’s very sense of individuality. Infidelity; meaning extramarital affair, is choice! Though there may be many reasons that could lead to infidelities such as the absence of emotional connection between partners, desire for additional sensual encounters, lack of satisfaction in bed, falling in love with someone else or falling out of love with your partner, desire to experience something new and many more. However, whatever the reason may be, being cheated on by the one who once promised to love us unconditionally breaks us down into many pieces. And, once the trust in any relationship is broken, it can never be restored to the way it was.
So, what to do when you find that your partner is cheating? How should you deal with infidelity? What should be your very next step once you find out your partner is cheating on you? Well, this is the time when your world is turned upside down and you have to remain calm and compose altogether. And, I reckon, it is certainly the hardest pill to swallow!
Get to the Bottom of Matter!
Infidelity, being such a serious matter, makes us lose our minds so quick that we don’t even think about getting to the bottom of the matter and make our mind up against our partner. When someone tells us about our partner being unfaithful to us, we immediately believe them without investigating the facts. The best approach, here, is to make some serious yet harmless efforts to scrutinize the matter.
Communication is Always the Key!
Once you’re done with your inspection and tragically found out about your partner is cheating on you, talk to them and confront them serenely. If they don’t confess their wrongdoings, show them the reasons why you come up with the aftermath. If they don’t confess it – happens in many cases – give them a chance to explain themselves to oppose the testimony.
Don’t Deal with it Alone!
Yes, we have to deal with most of our sorrows and stressful experiences by alone; however, you must remember that ANY agony can be minimized if shared with the right person. And so is the case with this woe as well. You must share this twinge with a reliable friend, acquaintances or family member. Besides, having a second opinion in such a situation is quite important.
Well, a lot of times it happens that a person who has been cheated on by his or her partner thinks to avenge or retaliate. When we find out about our partner cheating on us, we – not all of us but some – tend to think we got the reason to retaliate. Well, avenge is, certainly, not the best way to handle the infidelity. Rather, it affects the relationship even worse.
Take a Break – A Short One!
Sometimes, life puts us in such circumstances where we badly need a break from everything and everyone. And, being cheated on by your partner might be one of those situations where your mind needs a break to come back even stronger. When the first approach of communicating and clearing out the things wouldn’t work, we should take our mind off of those unpleasant situations that bother us.
Get Yourself Tested!
Since you were unaware of the fact that your partner was cheating on you for quite sometimes, you must be indulged in making love with them a couple of times. If that be the case, you must get tested yourself as there might be some possibilities of STDs or HIV, etc. Besides, don’t indulge in any kind of unsafe sexual activity with your partner up until you get tested. To our surprise, a lot many women use sex as a mean to get back their partner into them, which I, personally, don’t agree with.
Forgive – Only If You Want To!
Sometimes, we value our relationship or are in a situation where we chose our unfaithful partner even after knowing they have cheated on us. With due respect to those situations and folks, forgive your partner only if you think it was a genuine mistake and won’t happen again. Sometimes, we forgive our partner for some reasons, be it our relationship, kid(s) or future, etc. and it gives them the opportunity to betray you again. If you believe in your partner and hope they won’t do it again, give your relationship another chance.
You’re Not the Culprit!
Last but surely not least, don’t ever think that you’re the reason why your partner has been unfaithful to you. A large number of people live their lives afterward with this guilt. Remember, betrayal is always a choice! And, if they cheated on you – especially when it happened multiple times – it was their conscious decision. So, never stop loving and embracing yourself. Self-love is always the key to gaining your confidence and courage to face any adversity life throws at you.
Just be proud of yourself and never let yourself down. Remember, you’re the only one who’s got your back no matter what. Hence, whatever conclusion your relationship reaches up to, Put YOURSELF first and keep going.