Taylor Adams
Ya ya, I know about orgasm. Have my friends and colleagues all bragging about it but WTF this ORGASM actually is? Why have I never experienced it? Or maybe I have but I don’t know about it? Is it really necessary to have an orgasm? What is with this women and orgasm?
Are questions like these and more becoming the reason for your headache these days? Well, it’s natural to think about orgasm but you should not overthink about it but surely can do a bit about it. Like discovering why you are not having an orgasm and what can you actually do about it.
To make it easy for you, here is a checklist for women to understand and analyse why they are not having an orgasm and what can they do to have it.
Reasons That You’re Not Having an Orgasm
Are you stuck in a sitting job?
Well, that is not something unusual right? Majority of us are stuck into sitting jobs and can’t really complain about it as it keeps the finances rolling. Fixing yourself to that desk chair may make your boss happy, but it’s bad news for your pelvic muscles. Sitting all day shortens them, and that can lead to pelvic pain that makes it more difficult to orgasm.
Now to have an orgasm, we suggest you move every half-hour during the workday. Go take small walks around your cubicle, go around to sip a coffee maybe. If possible, stretch your hip flexors with backbends, do squats, and butterfly stretches.
Do you have a thing for high heels?
The studies down around women and orgasm reveal that women who prefer wearing high heels all the time do face issues in having an orgasm. It is said that wearing high heels affect adversely on your psoas muscles, which connect with muscles and nerves that lead to your pelvic floor, genitalia, and related organs. The psoas muscles are responsible for sending the arousal message needed for orgasm. So, if you really want to experience the orgasm, you need to fight your love for heels. Wear them less and opt for more comfortable footwear instead. It seems like the flats would do wonders for having an orgasm.
Do you pee before Sex?
Everyone knows to pee right after sex to help prevent a urinary tract infection, but it’s smart to go beforehand too. It can be incredibly hard to reach orgasm when your bladder is full. The reason is simple – Instead of being in the moment, you’re constantly feeling the pressure to pee, and praying you don’t actually do so in bed. So, to have an orgasm, make it a point to pee before and put all your energy and concentration in the act to feel those magical jitters.
Are you drinking enough water?
Don’t you feel like water is a one-stop solution for almost everything? We do feel so, if you want to keep your skin young and alive, you must have water all day. Now, if we have to experience orgasm, then also water is the solution. Hard to digest know? But it is true, drinking water throughout the day can prevent everyday health problems like fatigue and constipation, and it can also help you climax in the bedroom. The science behind water and having an orgasm is that ‘the arousal tissue that extends into the connective tissue system needs to slide and glide in order to work its O-inducing magic, and it can’t do that without fluid. So, the easiest way to ensure that happens is to be hydrated.’
So gulp down an extra glass or two of water to have an orgasm!
Are you on medications?
We do keep hearing that medicines and drugs are not good for us. Oh yes, they really are not good. The medicines we take causes a spike in prolactin levels, a protein that reduces libido and could be the culprit behind your inability to climax. If you are taking blood pressure medications, birth control pills, and antidepressants then you are facing issue in having an orgasm. All these medications hamper the body’s own capability of lubrication and hampering your pleasure. If that’s the case, make sure you have plenty of lubricants to keep sex in the pleasure zone and talk to your doctor about a possible medication switch if problems persist.
Do you talk about it with your partner?
Your partner is not a mind reader and nor are you. Communication is always the key. So staying silent about what really turns you on isn’t going to help you climax. Plus, every woman’s body parts are shaped slightly different, so motions and angles that feel amazing for one person just don’t do it for another. Talk and let your partner know what brings you pleasure. If they still don’t get it, tell them directly, or move their hand exactly where you want it. In fact, women taking charge in bed is a turn on for a lot of men. So, it can be a win-win situation anyway.
I know you’re a woman and you do masturbate, right?
There is still a taboo about women masturbating. Not just the society but women themselves don’t accept the fact that masturbation is healthy and a much-needed self-pleasure exercise. A woman’s ability to fantasize and use her imagination during masturbation can help her unleash her creative inhibitions in bed, and it helps her learn exactly how and where she likes to be touched. How frequently you pleasure yourself can directly affect your chances of reaching orgasm when you’re with your partner. To up your chances of achieving orgasm with a partner, women must masturbate a few times a week.
Do you know about the ‘love’ hormones?
Yes, your body releases the ‘feel-good’ or ‘love’ hormone which is technically called as ‘Oxytocin’. If your body isn’t producing enough of it, climaxing can be more difficult. Stress can be a major reason for low oxytocin production, but spending more time with your partner, looking into their eyes, holding hands, and kissing have all lead to the secretion of love hormone. To have an orgasm, ensure your feel-good hormones are on point or make really good efforts in keeping them on the place.
Make slow changes in your lifestyle with these tips to have an orgasm and you’ll be the next one bragging about OGASM in your next get together with friends and colleagues.
Happy ORGASIMNG you women!
